Parent A held considerable malice towards, and refused to even acknowledge Parent B, not allowing me the freedom to have my own thoughts and feelings towards this person. While I do not know what transpired between my parents, I do know that the outcome of their contentious relationship gravely affected me as a child and manifested its influence into my adulthood.
My parent's sibling witnessed varying degrees of the imbalance that I experienced as a child. It was never more clear than when Parent A "passed me off " to their sibling and I lived under this person's guardianship, while my own siblings were showered with love and affection. I felt thrown to the side, as I never heard Parent A express any positive emotion towards me until I became a parent myself.
My experiences have inspired me to strive to be a better parent, as well as to recognize the importance of my child's developing and maintaining their own identity.
I'm so glad that I found this site! It has brought healing to my heart, knowing that someone is advocating for those who are barred from establishing their own identities within a family whose dynamics are ruptured..
- Wayne Thomas